I used to be always on the go. Felt like time was running out. Seemed as if I was chasing my own tail, striving to become something that I didn’t know I already was. While I am partly to blame, society, trends, clichés and poor information had me believe that “hard work” is the secret to success. I’d make excuses to further solidify my unhealthy attachments to being busy, and burned out in the process. Until, that day came and I burned out. It was at this point where I heard God telling me “There is a better way”. I had no energy to fight any longer, opened my Bible and got the confirmation I needed, slap, bang in my face.
#POTD | What Makes You Truly Happy?
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
Dale Carnegie
#BeINspired | There Is A Light At The End of The Tunnel
“No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it and just keep working towards it and you’ll find the positive side of things” – Demi Lovato
#FashionINspired | Fashion Bloggers’ Picks for Winter 2017
Trends seem to be a living, breathing thing – they grow, shrink, change, evolve, and disappear, and people all over the world are trying to keep up. Fashion designers and models are among the most privileged ones for they have a chance to glimpse into the future and see what new trends await there, but what about the rest of the world? As we have a hard time attending Fashion Weeks and fashion shows, fashion bloggers always have our backs.
#InspireLSRelationships | The Difficulties Of Divorce
Divorce is never a nice thing to talk about, nor an event that anyone plans to happen in their lives. However, it is also a fact that a vast majority of marriages end this way. It is a horrible situation to be in, and not just for the couple, but for their family too, and for any children they have. Divorce isn’t something that a person decides on over night; it’s something that can creep in and be slowly released over time, even as the couple fights to rekindle their relationship. It can come all of a sudden over a betrayal or an act that tears the two people apart – and in those instances, it can be even harder, as there has been no slow fade, no fight made and lost, but just a sudden cleaving of the world they’re used to. And in amongst all these horrible, emotional times, there are things that have to sort out and arranged to separate your two lives.
#SWInspires | Navigating Your Way Through ‘The Sunken Place’
Mental Health Illness has no face: This is something I say often, and when I further examine such a statement, I see two meanings. The first; is that anyone can be affected regardless of who they are or what they look like. The second and not so obvious; is from the perspective of mental health itself. It’s hard to describe or put into a box, it disguises in many different cloaks, hides away for seasons and is somewhat a shape shifter in that it can manifest itself in different ways within different people. For the benefit of this piece, I’d like to discuss the topic of Depression. You’ll notice in the title of this article my use of the term ‘The Sunken Place’. After watching the movie ‘Get Out’, I found some words to closer describe the feeling of depression that lingers within my own life, and indeed it is like sinking into a hole within myself.
#POTD | What Is Happiness?
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” – Jim Rohn
#SWInspires | Your Legacy Happens In Moments
At the age of 25, I released my Autobiography “Unashamed”. This was and still is my greatest career achievement to date, as it represents something so powerful, significant and meaningful to me. Though I have written 12 Books and each holds a very special place in my heart, this one was very different. One evening in 2008, I sat in my office reflecting on my life and all of the things I had been through, that only I knew. I had a very dark and blunt realisation instantly, ‘If I die, everything dies with me’. While this on the surface sounds very glum and far from motivational, you’d be surprised how this thought manifested into a very methodical determination and work ethic from that point on. I was driven by my life work outliving me, so much so, that I’d carefully write in a timeless context. I became less concerned about by how people viewed me now, and quite frankly, obsessed with how they’d view me when I am no longer here. Now, I’ll state here that I believe that legacy is important, and a powerful motivational factor and it can help you to be very deliberate about the moves you make, but it does also have it’s limitations if not managed correctly.
